He doesn't need to be skipping into the office, but getting into a relationship with someone who hates his job is a whole other story.
There's food in the fridge, sheets on his bed, and money in his savings, and he's able to carry his own weight financially while making good financial decisions.
What kind of relationship does your man have with his pals? Does he make an effort to keep in contact with the individuals who are important to him?
How someone feels about themselves is evident in their self-care routine. If a person isn't concerned with their own physical, mental, and emotional health, they aren't valuing themselves.
He may not want to talk about everything, but a grown woman needs a man who can talk about essential topics without running away, shutting down, blaming, or name-calling.
It's natural to feel compelled to offer assistance and guidance to people you care about, particularly when you recognize the potential that others possess.
Sure, he can say he thinks, feels, and values certain things, but does he live them? Paying close attention to what he does is more important than listening to what he says.
Newsflash: A plant isn't a great way to gauge this (those things are hard to keep alive). You can, however, get a sense of how nurturing he is by paying attention to how he treats others.
Stress, bad news, setbacks, and downturns happen to all of us. How does he handle it when they happen to him? Does he break down, shut down, or play the victim or martyr?
Looking at porn doesn't make someone a porn addict (otherwise nearly every man and many women would be getting a diagnosis).